What are you doing to meet Mr. Right?
Your success at meeting men is a function of these three closely related elements:
- Your motivation to meet men
- Your skill at meeting men
- Your efforts to meet men
Your Motivation
Your motivation is the most volatile of the three elements that affects your success at meeting men. It influences and overrides everything else. On the negative side, if you aren’t motivated to make the effort to meet men, you probably won’t meet any, period. Or when eligible men are around you and your motivation is low, perhaps from lack confidence or a bad experience, then you will just let all those gorgeous men pass you by. If you lack motivation, then you won’t do the things necessary to improve your skill enough to turn those contacts into dates, and into a mate.
On the positive side, sufficient motivation can carry you all the way through. It’s the starting point in your quest for a man. It will prompt you to learn the skills that will increase your confidence, and prompt you to go to the places where men are, and to do the things necessary to meet them.
Your motivation is the most volatile of the three elements that effect your love life, and it’s the hardest to influence directly. It’s a result of your life experiences, a product of your thinking, your confidence, and your past. It’s not something that you can influence directly by “positive thinking” alone. It takes action to change or influence your motivation. So how do you change or influence your motivation? You do it indirectly by improving your confidence. You improve your confidence by improving your skill at meeting men.
Your Skill Level
Improving your skill at meeting men is the one thing you can do consistently that will have a direct impact on the other areas. It’s the most reachable of the three elements that determine your love life. Increasing your skill at meeting men is the best place to focus your energy.
Your Prospecting Efforts
Prospecting is the easiest of these three elements to effect. This is where most of the books focus on: where to meet guys. They tell you where to go to find men. Like most women, this is probably where you have focused most of your efforts in the past: dating services, classified ads, going to bars, getting introduced to a man by a friend, and going to the beach. All these things increase your exposure to men, which increases the likely hood of coming in contact with someone you will like and will hit it off with.
When someone speaks of dating being a numbers game, this is what they meant. If you are exposed to a sufficient number of men, you will find the right one. In theory, this is correct. In reality, it’s a hard to rely on just numbers to meet someone. For one thing, it takes a lot of time, energy and effort. What you need is to turn a larger percentage of these contacts into actual dates. In other words, actually meeting more of the eligible men you encounter.
For Maximum Success
These three elements are present in everyone in unequal percentages, but the total of them will add up to your 100%. You might be strong in one area and weak in another and still succeed nicely at meeting men, as long as the total effort is enough.
For example, suppose you are stranded on a desert island all alone. You could be Miss America with plenty of conversational skill, and looks that could kill. Yet your exposure to men is zero. You will meet no men at all.
On the other hand, suppose you were a shy homely woman stranded on that same desert island for a couple of years. Perhaps you were even a little overweight. Just you and 20 male Olympic athletes. The chances of you having your pick of all these men would be very high.
These examples are a bit extreme but they serve to show you that these three elements are, to a certain extent, interchangeable. Your strength in one area can overcome a weakness in the other area. But for maximum success at attracting men, work on all three.
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