Eye contact is a very powerful but oftentimes underestimated technique when it comes to attracting the right guy. For women, it’s about that you make the most out of your most beautiful asset and communicate your feelings and interests better.

Importance of eye contact

The eyes are said to be the windows to the soul. While this is an oft-used expression, it has a grain of truth, because the eyes allow people to know whether the other person is interested. For instance, sellers are masters of the craft of eye contact. In fact, they use this to see if the person they are talking business to is actually interested or if it’s time to move on to another customer.

Pupil dilation and a prolonged gaze are the telltale signs for interest with marketing and trade. Surprisingly, the same goes for physical and sexual attraction. The longer you gaze at the hot guy at the bar, the more obvious your interest in him becomes.

How eye contact attracts guys

You might be wondering how a simple act of making eye contact during casual conversations and dates can further attract your man to your charms.

Think of eye contact as a game of catch. When you catch someone looking at you and if you find him interesting, you can express this by looking back, holding his gaze for a moment, and smiling. If you want to test the waters, try looking at him for some time. If he catches you looking, break the eye contact for a moment then look back at him. If he is interested, you will catch him looking at another time, and when you do, it’s time to show through your eyes that the previous eye contact was more than just coincidence.

Eye contact can work for both timid girls and more expressive ones. Women who are not so aggressive with dating can use eye contact to test the waters with a guy. If you deem your eyes to be your best feature, you can even showcase them and say so much without actually saying anything—yet.

Women who are more expressive of themselves can use eye contact as a way of adding charm to their personality. A person who can hold someone else’s gaze means that he or she is interested in that person. The most common problem that some people experience when dealing with an outgoing person is that they may feel a little confused as to whether the other party is already taking an interest in him or her. This is because outgoing people generally try to please everyone, making it harder to tell if he is just being nice to you or if he’s genuinely putting the moves on you.

To remedy this, outgoing women can show their interest with more lingering glances. Even if you talk to everyone, paying that extra attention to that one particular guy can go a long way.

Guys and eye contact

There are different ways by which you can make use of eye contact when dealing with particular types of guys. Preferences with guys can be pretty expansive—you may be into the shy type who seems sensitive and reserved or the funny joker who always lightens any kind of mood. The thing to remember here is that whatever type of guy you may be into, eye contact can do great wonders to progress your relationship status.

For shy guys, the rule is to never be aggressive. Shy guys can be easily jarred by sudden or in-your-face behaviors, and no matter how much they may be attracted to you, it’s easy to scare them away. This is where eye contact can play a major role in progressing your relationship. Occasional eye contact allows you to express a certain degree of interest in the person without overtly making yourself look too easy. Always avoid prolonged and unblinking eye contact. Not only will you appear like a stalker, he may also see you as someone insane or aggressively desperate.

The more outgoing guys may be easier to talk to because they tend to accommodate anyone. But you have to remember that because they are generally interesting, you also have to set yourself apart from all the other women that they meet and converse with. Use eye contact when talking to this type of guy.

Unlike with shy guys, you can be a little more overt when looking at him, especially when you are talking about something interesting. Try to pair eye contact with a little body language and light touching. When he tells a joke, you can use direct eye contact when listening, laugh, and even touch his arm in the process. It’s a good way to make him feel like you’re all ears and all interested.

In general, eye contact is a way for women to show interest but also maintain a reserved quality. If he returns your gaze with more than just a passing glance, then you have a sign that he may also be into you. Eye contact can provide this much-awaited bridge for you to start a conversation and keep it rolling.

Tips on how to improve your eye contact

When you’re out on group dates, use eye contact the same way you would do when talking to a group. However, if you have already found the guy you are interested in, it doesn’t hurt to pay more attention to him by using eye contact. As for the others in the group, you can still show your friendliness by making the occasional eye contact with them, particularly if they are talking to you. Otherwise, reserve your gaze for the one you’re interested in.

During arguments with your man, you can certainly make use of eye contact. Holding eye contact can be a sign of making a strong point, while breaking eye contact shows a more non-defiant attitude. If you are looking to win an argument with just a gaze, you can look him straight in the eyes like you’re trying to win a staring contest. Another way is to enumerate your arguments while giving a meaningful look at the most important part of your points for emphasis.

A smile and a gaze: The killer combination

The easiest yet most effective rule in the book to attracting men is to hold his gaze and flash him your pearly whites. The good thing about eye contact is you can both play hard to get and be the easy charmer with no words at all.

Some girls use and break eye contact as a way to check a guy’s interest. It’s a good way to see if he was really looking at you or if you just happened to pass by at the same moment he was looking in your direction. But when you’re sure that he has been looking at you for a great deal of time, a lingering look with a small smile can go a long way.

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If your gut-feel is to flinch, then you’re probably one of the many women out there who feel like they are stuck with an approach to dating that only attracts the wrong kind of men for them.

In most cases, women often find dates that are similar to previous guys that they’ve already gone out with. Call it a type or a force of habit, but it’s a practice that is build over time, one that has become hard to shake, especially if you are not the type to change ways every so often.

To get to the root of your dilemma, the first thing to do is to look at how you feel about your current dating situation. Ask yourself some of these questions: Am I happy? Are my friends happy about the kind of dating scenes that I get into? Do I only think about my date when we’re going out or does my mind wander to something else? Do my instincts tell me to get that this is the right relationship for me?

If you answered “No” to all of these questions, there’s a big chance that you need to do something else to fix your dating habit—and fast.

There are many reasons why this may be the case. It can be that type of guy that you date is not suitable for your current situation. Sometimes, women feel like they know what they want and that what they want is good for them. But in most cases, it’s easy to get blinded by what you really need.

He may have killer looks or that six-pack, but if you’re the type who needs a more stable working man than a guy who’s still in transition himself, then it’s probably best that you steer clear of those types. Or maybe you are looking for something casual but always end up with someone who wants more to the relationship than a few dates.

The key here is to know what you want in a relationship. Figure your own agenda with the relationship first before you go off searching for the type of guy to pursue in the dating scene.

Another reason for a frustrating dating experience is that you may be stuck with the same old boring routine. If you always find yourself in the same bar, hanging out with the same group of friends or going out with the same kind of guy each time, then you probably have this kind of problem.

This isn’t to say that you should just drop your friends or your favorite bar just so you can find a guy. Go out more. Visit other bars and hang out in other places. There’s nothing bad about going out of your way to try out new things. Not only do you allow yourself to broaden your dating horizon, but the fresh and new scene can also allow you to experience more in life.

The bottom line here is to not be afraid to take chances. Grab every new opportunity and open window. Take a stroll out of your comfort zone and don’t be afraid of change. It’s one way to get closer to finding the right guy and changing up your dating experience.

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How many times have women become frustrated and annoyed when this happens with their men? It makes them wonder what exactly guys want in a relationship and in a woman.

To be honest, most men want it all—an intelligent woman that parents would love to have as their daughter-in-law, but who can also transform into a babe who could be exciting in the bedroom. An independent woman sounds very interesting, but guys also want women to be able to show vulnerability so we can show come to the rescue.

When it comes to the looks department, guys have varying preferences that can change depending on their mood. Some like blonds, others like brunettes, and some go for smokin’ red heads. There are guys who want fair-skinned ladies, while others want those who aren’t afraid to stay under the sun and get tanned. Some want curvy girls, while other guys want petite and fragile women.

Yes, most men can be very unreasonable and unpredictable, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t cherish our girl once we find her. The real secret with men is that while we have a set of ideals, meeting that one woman can be the only thing we need to kiss those high standards goodbye.

So the best advice that girls should live by is to be themselves. Just as girls are looking for their Mr. Right, most men also want to find Ms. Right. And most of the time, men put their guard up, because they just don’t want to get hurt while looking for the right girl.

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