Many women don’t know of how to meet guys using small talk. To some, the mere thought of it creates an atmosphere of dread and fear. When done properly, small talk is a very powerful tool you can use to meet new guys and even make some friends out of them.
The art of small talk takes time and practice to master. In addition, the more you engage in small talk, the better you get at it. Below are some tips on how to use small talk as a way to meet new guys.
1. If you want to meet a new guy, it’s best to introduce yourself through a common friend. This is best done by a person that they have respect for and makes the start of the conversation more pleasurable and comfortable. Make sure you hear their name right and use it often so you’ll remember it. Furthermore, don’t forget to make eye contact; this shows him that you’re genuinely interested in him.
2. Familiarize yourself about the topics to be discussed. This is especially true if you are attending a business event. Having a little preparation will give you confidence to talk about the topic during small talk. Just keep it light and simple.
3. Know current events within the community or news around the country or the world. These are always good starters for small talk. Almost everybody knows about something happening around them or around the world. Be updated and don’t be afraid to ask pertinent questions.
4. Mention something about the situation or moment you are both in. This can be an event the two of you are attending. Other topics can include the food, traffic, parking, weather among others.
5. Overcome your shyness by being clear about your goals. Show real interest in the men you are having small talk with. Likewise, focus on him and not on yourself by listening intently to what he has to say.
6. Your body language can say a lot too. Be comfortable and at ease. Try to assume a position where you are able to speak confidently. At the same time, offer to sit down with him if there are seats available.
7. Make sure your exit lines are polite. Your exit lines can range from you offering the other person another drink or you can tell them you are looking for a companion of yours.
8. Practice makes perfect. You don’t need an event to put your small talk skills to work. You can practice meeting guys that you don’t know or strangers you see in coffee shops. Don’t forget to sense his tone and gauge yourself if you’re too chatty and annoying.
Mastering small talk is an effective way to meet new guys and being at ease with them. Moreover, it can be the start of something big and wonderful. Just remember to leave a good and lasting impression and leave something for the imagination.
