Photo by Julie70Very few men are “only” interested in a woman’s appearance. But if a man doesn’t find you attractive on the outside, he will probably not take the time or energy to get to know you. And all your inner beauty will never be seen. Like it or not, your outside appearance is the single most important factor in attracting men. A man wants an attractive woman. This is the first thing that men judge women on as potential mates.
So if you’re having trouble getting men interested in you, then you need to take a long hard look at your outside appearance. How attractive you are determines who approaches you. Attractive women have more men to choose from. The first step in improving your success with men is to get them interested in meeting you.
Improving Your Appearance Will Improve Your Success With Men.
Nothing is easier than meeting men who already want to meet you. Because he will only take the risk of approaching you if he likes what he sees on the outside. Any positive change you make in your appearance will make meeting men easier because they will be more interested in you.
In this respect women have an advantage over men. It’s a whole lot easier for a woman to improve her appearance than it is for a man to improve his socioeconomic status. A trip to the shopping mall and hairdresser can be done in an afternoon. A good education or improving one’s financial position can take a lifetime to achieve.
Even Cinderella Had a Makeover
You’re probably thinking that you can’t make a significant improvement in your appearance. Well, you’re wrong. Your appearance is simply the sum total of all the choices you make when you dress every morning. When you get your hair cut, buy clothes, polish your nails, press your pants, etc. Aside from your body type and facial features, just about everything else can be modified or enhanced to a greater or lesser degree.
While there is a limit to how much you can improve your physical appearance, the limiting factor is usually your thinking. And this is the case with both men and women. In a man’s case, they often don’t realize how a few simple changes could improve their appearance. In a woman’s case, they might think they don’t deserve the additional attention they would get if they allowed themselves to become more attractive.
You manipulate your appearance for example, by the clothes you choose to wear and how you cut and comb your hair in a particular style. The distinction comes where you chooses to draw the line. Everyone chooses to manipulate their outside appearance to a different degree.
On the extreme end of the scale are breast implants, tummy tucks and face-lifts. But going to the tanning saloon or hairdresser is a commonly accepted ritual for woman. Even choosing not to shave your legs or to keep our hair in dreadlocks is a conscious decision that effects your appearance.
Look at Cinderella. Even she had a makeover before she went to the ball.
Use Your Appearance as a Tool
So the question is not, “Should you manipulate your appearance?” The question is, “To what degree are you comfortable doing so?” Men and women learn what is attractive and what is not attractive from society. The practical implication is that attractiveness is a perception. You manipulate the variables to gain the desired perception. Society sets the rules or guidelines, and you can choose to follow them or not.
So how do you make yourself more attractive to men? By studying the men and women around you. Look at the men you would like to be dating and then look at the women they are with. Study their dress and appearance, and copy them.
There are many subtle features about how women dress to attract men. And it will take you awhile to learn what they are and see all the variables. But this is the best way to learn. You can supplement your learning by looking in the popular magazines and studying the ads and feature articles for the men and women portrayed there. Of course you don’t have to look or dress exactly like these women. But you will begin to see how to combine the variables to create the image you want project.
Avoid Going Overboard
This is a good place to address the issue of bending to societies pressures or remaining your own woman. Many women have the notion that they have to be the most beautiful woman in the room to survive. This is a mistake. A woman only needs to be sufficiently attractive to get a mans attention.
Because not all men are attracted to the “Barbie Doll” type. And not all men are attracted to “skinny” women. Different men are attracted to different types of looks. It’s all very individual. A man will only approach a woman within his comfort range.
Since most men aren’t the super successful James Bond type they are more likely to approach an attractive woman, and let the beautiful ones pass. Almost all men are fascinated by and will look at the Barbie Doll type but few men have the confidence to approach her. So the extra time, energy and effort you put into looking perfect would be wasted.
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